Little Gratitudes, Lasting Connections
By Payton Stepps, LPC-A, City Center Counseling Ministry
Some moments in life invite us to pause and reflect on the people and relationships we care about. Birthdays, anniversaries, and other relationship-focused holidays are times when we may feel especially aware of these connections. During these occasions, culture often emphasizes grand gestures, while research shows that smaller, consistent acts of gratitude have a far more lasting impact. While it is natural to want to plan large celebrations or give exuberant gifts, the deeper value comes from showing appreciation in everyday moments, long after the event has passed.
Gratitude plays a powerful role in strengthening relationships. When we receive a thoughtful compliment or a simple word of recognition, we feel both acknowledged and a natural desire to give back. This exchange keeps us engaged with one another and deepens emotional connection. Psychologists describe gratitude as a booster for relationships, as ordinary, everyday expressions can strengthen bonds and build resilience over time. When gratitude becomes part of our daily interactions, it quietly reinforces mutual care and closeness with the people we value most.
Reflection
Take a moment to notice what you’re grateful for related to the people and moments that are meaningful in your life. You might try filling in a few blanks below while thinking of someone you care about.
Five Gratitudes to Reflect On
1. I am grateful for something they did for me recently: _______________________________________
2. I am grateful for a quality or strength they have: ___________________________________________
3. I am grateful for a shared memory or experience: __________________________________________
4. I am grateful for how they support me or others: ___________________________________________
5. I am grateful for a small thing they do that may go unnoticed: ______________________________
Action
Gratitude becomes even more meaningful when it is expressed. Here are some practical ways to act on that awareness and show appreciation to your partner, friend, or family member.
Five Simple Ways to Show Gratitude
1. Be specific. Mention the exact action or quality you value, as it feels personal and genuine.
2. Say it loud. Brief, sincere words in everyday moments can be more powerful than occasional grand gestures.
3. Write it down. A short note, text, or message gives someone something tangible to revisit when they need reassurance.
4. Support what matters most to them. Showing interest in a goal, challenge, or passion communicates respect and care.
5. Express it consistently. Checking in, offering a kind word, or listening attentively demonstrates ongoing gratitude and strengthens connection over time.